Rejection :: essays research papers

Someone once told me that life is not al demeanors fair that some days are better than others are. Men do not care for this rule and we want everyday to be great, perfect and full of joy but deep down(a) we know it cannot be. We refuse to accept the unfairness of life though we resist in our own unique ways to every bad thing that happens in our lives. We have been known to resist violently, lashing stunned at others in rage and we have been known to bear the pain ourselves without rage and violence. Either way we convey a way to deal, but dealing is not our game in life we would rather solve the problem than to risk defeat. However, there are times and situations that cannot be solved that judgment and result are given in one sweeping blow that can knock the wind out of our self-esteem or knock us out completely. These types of problems cannot be avoided if a male wants to have a normal and productive life. It is a matter of our onrush and our dealing with the result that wil l give us a learning tool for future problems. The problem I want to ad-dress is dealing with rejection by a woman in two different stages pre-relationship and during the relation-ship.When I say pre-relationship I am trying to say is asking a woman out on a date. For most men this is the trickiest part of the relationship, and the most feared because of that. Men also have a portion of diffidence in themselves when it comes to persons of the opposite sex that they find attractive. They will go through a period where they try to talk themselves out of asking a woman on a date by using the self-doubt. They will try to persuade themselves that they are not good enough for the woman and therefore should not try. This is a subconscious defensive manoeuvre to avoid rejection because you cannot be rejected if you do not try. Self-doubt is the first snag that needs to be reckoned with before pursuing any relationship. To overcome self-doubt you need to believe in yourself in and out. Yo u need to show people that you are confident and believe that you are confident as well if you cannot convince yourself, it will be ex-ponentially harder to convince others.